You come to love not by finding the perfect person,
but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly. -- Sam Keen
by Kateryna Spiwak
It's What You Make It
Realize that February 14th is really just another date on the calendar. It's what you make it, and has all the importance you give it. Either downplay it, or create your own reasons to celebrate it.
If you can't diminish the sadness it causes for you, then take action to limit its effect and retain your personal power. Don't fall victim to a negative mindset and the annual “drowning of the sorrows”. Instead, consciously focus on the good things in your life, rather than on what's missing. Focus on friends, family and the other blessings you have.
Share the Love
Take this opportunity to celebrate the love you already have in your life. Make Valentine's Day a time for spending time with family and friends. Give cards and gifts to your loved ones, bake cookies with your kids, babysit your nephews, volunteer to cheer up some lonely seniors. Pre-arrange a gift exchange with a good friend, same-sex or opposite. Don't forget that love is about much more than just having a partner in your life.
In With the New
Create some great new Valentine's Day memories this year. Organize a get-together with family or your other single pals. Throw a martini party or a potluck, have a movie night, or bust out some tunes. (or all three!) Go out dancing, hit a club for live music, do karaoke, go bowling or skate under the stars. Focus on having fun and enjoying your friends!
In need of some TLC? Treat yourself to something special this week – a haircut, spa day, or massage; a gift, a movie, a shopping trip or your favourite meal.
Create More Fun
Take a course, join a gym, or join a group to pursue a new hobby & make some new friends. Concentrate on creating happiness and a full life apart from a partner.
Get Outta Town!
If the idea of being in town and surrounded by amorous couples is still too much to take, if at all possible, get out of town. Book a vacation or a b&b night away with a pal. Go have a new adventure! Create a new tradition of re-charging your batteries around Valentine's Day.
Put New Life in Your Dating Life
Set some new goals for your dating life. Try meeting people in new ways - meetup groups, singles' events, on-line, through new hobbies. Polish your social skills in new settings to increase your confidence. Review your dating readiness and what you need to work on to get there.
Create An Open Mind About Attracting Love
Believe you deserve love and that it will come to you. Keep your eyes open and say yes to all opportunities to meet new people. Improve your attitude, and change any negative or limiting beliefs. Consciously project positive energy, openness, and acceptance of others. Remember - you'll attract what you project.
Keep Working On Yourself
Neutralize any major defense mechanisms, soften those emotional walls, & deal with any emotional baggage you’re carting around. Work on developing the traits that appeal to everyone – confidence, humour, an outgoing nature, a positive attitude, openness, kindness, & warmth. People aren’t drawn to negativity and neediness, so cultivate a positive aura that will attract others.
Seek Advice And Support From Others
Support and advice is available for finding and being ready for a loving relationship, whether from friends, social groups, family, dating coaches or therapists. Ask for support if you need it!
Keep Developing Abundance In Your Life
Develop a life full of fun and positive energy. You’ll feel happier, and people will be drawn to the dynamic energy you project. Remember that being single is not a death sentence! It offers independence, personal growth, and the opportunity for a diverse social network. Remind yourself that you don't even need a partner to be complete! You're already pretty amazing the way you are.